Let’s talk about one of the scariest things in relationships. Falling out of love with your SO. 

Scary, isn’t it?

Many of us lament the loss of something within us as love begins to fade before we even consider the possibility of losing the person we’re with or our relationship. Losing a previously illuminated aspect of ourselves as we fall out of love is one of the most agonizing processes. 

What happens if you start to lose interest in someone? Who is at fault, and can you rebalance the odds in your favor? Many relationship experts believe that when we lose love, it is worthwhile to investigate this issue.

So in the spirit of investigation, we’ve researched and have come up with ten reasons you find yourself falling out of love. 

10 Reasons You’re Falling Out of Love

The Number one reason people fall out of love is they’re Human.

I don’t believe anyone willfully falls out of love. However, many of us are oblivious of the barriers we’ve built and adjustments we’ve made, which may now limit our capacity to remain close and bonded to our relationships. 

For instance, it could be challenging to remain connected and fully trust someone if we experience feelings of insecurity and neglect as children. When we were raised by folks who were punitive, cold, or who themselves struggled to give and receive love, it can be challenging to be open and consistently kind. 

That’s a bonus reason. Here are ten more below;

Your bond has been put to the test.

An underrated reason people fall out of love is that they have had trials and tribulations that have weakened their bond and tendency to lose interest in one another. For instance, if you’re dealing with the death of a family member or the loss of your employment, these emotional loads may tear apart the ties that bind you and your partner. 

Sometimes, a couple will separate because they can’t work through adversity as a team. And these kinds of psychological and financial pressures ultimately lead to the breakdown of their relationship and the cessation of their love.

You’re constantly fighting.

Some relationships never seem to be able to come to an understanding. You and your partner cannot agree on anything, be it a major topic like shared values and career choices or a minor one like where to have dinner. 

And it’s not unusual for your affection for this person to shift when you are unable to communicate, your world views are completely at odds with one another, and you spend most of your time together arguing. So while you may care about them, it can be challenging to love someone if your viewpoints have changed sincerely and neither is open to compromise.

You have unreasonable expectations of your mate.

Your partner is probably doing their best, but like any human, they occasionally make mistakes and goof up. And while a supportive partner deals with these slip-ups maturely, an unsupportive one will treat their partner as if they should be flawless all the time, which can irritate both parties.

When your partner falls short of expectations they didn’t set for themselves, they are tempted to alter them without realizing that your behavior has a significant impact. And if you are unaware of this, your narcissism may cause you to lose interest in them.

Your love is for someone else.

A person falling in love with someone else is another reason relationships lose their sparks. Maintaining your love for your relationship can be difficult if you frequently think about someone who isn’t your partner and have strong, adoring sentiments for that person. Falling out of love can be a step in intensifying your affections for the other person if your thoughts are constantly focused on them. It can be challenging to adore your partner while focusing on your other relationships sincerely.

You’re Feeling Unappreciated 

If a partner doesn’t make them feel valued, respected, or appreciated in their relationship, some people lose interest in them. For instance, it can be challenging to truly feel loved if your partner no longer acknowledges your accomplishments or appreciates you. Additionally, your love for your partner may dwindle if you feel that you are frequently denigrated, taken for granted, or even discarded in your relationship. 

This person may wind up making you resentful through words and deeds if you are treated poorly by them. Additionally, the affection you formerly felt for your spouse may have diminished if you no longer feel important, respected, or even truly loved by them.

You’ve been Betrayed.

When your partner abuses your trust, there’s a high chance you’d fall out of love with them. The love frequently fades away once the trust is broken, whether your partner was unfaithful to you, engaged in an emotional affair, or never honors their commitments. After someone has cheated on you physically or emotionally, it might be challenging to remain in love with them because you might doubt their sincerity. 

It can be challenging to feel that you can trust this person, rely on them, and feel safe and comfortable in your relationship with them. Trust is a crucial component of love, which frequently leads to breakups when broken.

You compare your union with everyone else’s.

The more difficult you feel your relationship is, the better everyone else’s will appear to be. However, you will make yourself feel worse if you compare yourself. You’re ultimately ruining whatever parts of your relationship are still salvageable.

Joy is stolen by comparison. Don’t be jealous of other people’s relationships; concentrate on your own. No relationship is as pristine as it appears on Instagram, and the grass always grows greener where you water it.

You’re stuck in the past.

This is especially for people who fall in and out of love quickly. When you’re preoccupied with the past, it’s difficult to concentrate on the present. This is especially true in love relationships, where the union’s success depends on your total and undivided emotional and physical presence. Leave the past in the past and let go of the things that are holding you back. And maybe you’d find yourself falling back in love with your lover.

You have no empathy.

How can you love someone if you don’t feel deeply for them? A healthy and happy relationship revolves around how each person is feeling. In times of conflict, you shift your mindset toward recognizing the core needs of yourself and your partner. By empathizing with our own unmet needs, and our partner’s unmet needs and then devising a plan to meet both.

Partners in unstable relationships, on the other hand, frequently find themselves fighting with their significant other with little to no regard for how the other person feels. Even if things were rosy from the start, there’s every tendency partner will fall out of love.

How Do You Know You’re Falling Out of Love?

When you’ve fallen out of love, We frequently become fixated on our differences, unable to find common ground, and our partner’s flaws are no longer viewed as opportunities for growth but as major character flaws.

Keep in mind that falling out of love does not imply that you no longer care about your partner; it simply means that the intense feelings you once felt are no longer present. If you’re wondering if you’re falling out of love with your partner, keep an eye out for these eight warning signs.

• You Don’t Want to Spend Time Together
• You Aren’t Honest With Your Partner
• You look for ways to avoid your partner.
• You prefer silent contempt to disagreements.
• You are concerned about your future with them.
• You yearn for someone (or something) else, you’re overly defensive, and you constantly criticize your partner.

What Can You Do About It?

“I Love You But I Am Not In Love With You” could hurt, especially when you know there is a future with your partner. Of course, many of us believe the best thing to do in such a situation is to part ways. But it could also be a phase conquered with more perseverance, tolerance, and willingness from both parties to work it out.

So, for those willing to fight, how can you do it?

It took two people to fall in love, and maintaining or rekindling a relationship will require both partners’ commitment, dedication, and efforts.

The importance of effective communication cannot be overstated. Scratch that. Make that “Honest Communication.” We must properly communicate to ensure that we are aware of the relationships or our partners’ changing demands.

“We are not communicating, or we stopped communicating, “is a common phrase used by couples. The truth is that communication is always necessary. Quietness speaks a lot!

Instead, “ineffective or damaging communication habits” are the issue. Your communication is likely unproductive and perhaps harmful if you are not resolving any issues, obstacles, or disagreements. As a result, you become more irritated, and your relationship demands are not addressed.

Unsurprisingly, if this behavior persists, it can lead to emotional distancing and, ultimately, the breakdown of the partnership.

Compromises are made possible through honest communication since it creates a space where your partner’s wants can be considered. This makes it possible for the relationship to change to accommodate each partner’s evolving requirements. The likelihood of survival is higher when the partners or relationships are more adaptable.

Furthermore, effective communication frequently leads to increased intimacy and emotional security: two aspects of a romantic relationship that are critical for “staying in love.”

OR

Get Professional Help

This is the best option if;

• You are aware of changes in your relationship’s emotional distance or levels of intimacy.
• You’ve recognized that your communication patterns are harmful and ineffective.
• You and your partner may have expressed concerns about the state of your relationship, and you may have attempted to address the issues that have arisen.
• You’re probably still frustrated and concerned because, despite your best efforts, you’re still employing the ineffective strategies that landed your relationship in this situation.
• Professional assistance may be beneficial if you want to get help and develop new communication and problem-solving skills and strategies for your relationship. Don’t be afraid to seek a professional opinion. 

Bottom Line

Before deciding to give up on love or relationships, we should consider our defenses and the dynamics that may limit our capacity to love. This is a process that has the potential to change the course of our lives. We must first understand ourselves to fall in love with someone else truly.

We can use the experience of falling in and out of love to get to know ourselves better and better understand our tendencies, fears, and patterns. We can recognize the patterns of behavior that cause distance in our relationships. And, with self-compassion, we can face the challenge of changing these behaviors.

Whatever we learn, we can apply to any relationship. So, when the right one comes along, we’ll have the tools we need to fight for the love we want in the long run. I hope this helps!